Mid-Life

Crisis

Symptoms

and Techniques

to Overcome it

Your Coachee is looking for a new purpose or revival, reaching mid-life, transitioning to a new identity, losing self-confidence, feeling anxious and disappointed.

Energy Mind-Map & Ikigai

What is your Coachee's Ikigai, his/her "reason for being"?

  1. Ask your Coachee to think of all the activities that give him/her energy, personally and professionally (the more the better). 

  2. Pick 3 that are quite different. For each, tell your Coachee to do a mind-map, writing any word the activity makes them think of; and then reconnect words with other words. See example here. Repeat for each of the 3 activities.

  3. Analyse with your Coachee the recurring themes. This shows the "What you Love" of the Ikigai.

  4. Now draw the Ikigai as below and ask your Coachee to fill it out the "What you love", "What you are good at", "What you can be paid for", "What the world needs". Any overlap?

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Limiting Beliefs

Your Coachee needs to identify common limiting beliefs that prevent him/her from living the life that he/she desires and reshapes them positively.

  1. Step 1: Ask your Coachee to imagine and write on a paper his/her life if money and time was no issue. Write as many details as possible.

  2. Step 2: ask your Coachee that are preventing him/her to reaching this dream life.

  3. Step 3: ask him/her write the childhood negative stories he/she tells himself/herself such as "my parents were poor", "my father was violent".

  4. Is there any overlap between Step 2 and 3. Analyse the answers.

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The Wheel of Happiness

The Wheel of Happiness is an introspective tool to help the coachee visualise all the important levers of happiness in his/her life: gratitude, sleep, nutrition, exercise, mindfulness, acts of kindness, social connections, learn and explore. This helicopter view allows to shift priorities if need be.

Ask your Coachee to draw his/her wheel of happiness grading for each area, the happiness level today and the targeted level. Analyse which areas have the biggest gaps between the 2 levels (today vs targeted) and reasons why.

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3 Key Strengths

People who use their strengths every day are:

  • 3 times more likely to report having an excellent quality of life, 

  • 6 times more likely to be engaged at work,

  • 8% more productive,

  • 15% less likely to quit their jobs.

Ask your Coachee to identify his/her key strengths:

What does your Coachee gets complimented on? What do his/her friends value? What do colleagues or boss value? What does your Coachee like about himself/herself? When does he/she feel in the flow?

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Values

The Values are basic and fundamental beliefs that guide or motivate attitudes or actions. Understanding the Coachee's Values will help us determine what is important to him/her. Values are the motive behind purposeful action. Values are the ends to which we act and come in many forms.

Ask your Coachee to think of 3 people he/she admires (friends or celebrities, real of fiction characters, alive or passed away). Then, ask your coachee to write as many attributes for each why he/she admires them. Any overlap? recurring theme? These are likely to be his/her values. What does your coachee think about these attributes? Are they his/her values?

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The 16-Personality Test (MBTI)

The purpose of this test based on Myers and Briggs' theory of 16 personality types is to indicate your psychological preferences in how you perceive the world around you and make decision. 

Ask your Coachee to do the test. He can do it on the GoMasterCoach app. We will give you suggestions of careers that fit the Coachee's profile. Then, debrief the results and what resonates with your Coachee.

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Common Symptoms

  • Feeling Tied Down, with No Chance for Change

  • Listless and Bored

  • Blaming Others of Preventing Them to Move Forward 

  • Drastic Changes in Habits, Mood Swings, and Impulsive Decision-Making

  • Shifts in Sleeping Habits

  • Obsession with Appearances

  • Buying a Sports Car

  • Looking for new Challenges (skydiving..) 

  • Disconnecting from Old Friends, and Replacing Them with Younger Friends

  • Thoughts of Death or Dying

  • Changing Career

  • Leaving Spouse or Having an Affair

  • Bouts of Depression

  • Increased Consumption of Alcohol or Drugs

  • Recent Traumas can also trigger Mid-Life Crisis

6 Techniques to Help

Overcome the Mid-Life Crisis

Sources:

  • The Impostor Syndrome: Becoming an Authentic Leader, by Harold Hillman, Chris Abernathy, et al

  • The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook), by Rebecca E. Williams PhD and Julie S. Kraft MA

  • Coach's Casebook, by Kim Morgan

  • Compassion for All Creatures, by Janice Gray Kolb

  • Perfectionism: A Practical Guide to Managing "Never Good Enough", by Lisa Van Gemert

  • The Fulfillment of All Desire, by Ralph Martin

  • Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment, by Tal Ben-Shahar

  • The Disease To Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome, by Harriet B. Braiker

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