Your Coachee is striving for flawlessness and setting excessively high performance standards, often overly self-critical and concerned regarding others’ evaluations.
The 360
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Because adults with perfectionism are often very critical of themselves, one of the most effective ways to overcome perfectionism is to replace self-critical or perfectionistic thoughts with more realistic feedbacks.
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Ask your Coachee to think of 5 people whose opinion your Coachee respects and trusts. Ask them for a 360 feedback. For example: what are the coachee's key strengths, achievements, what they value the most about your coachee and one area of improvement.
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The Wheel of Life
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The Wheel of Life is an introspective tool to help the coachee visualise all the important areas in his/her life: career, finances, health, romance, family and friends, personal and spiritual development, fun and recreation, physical environment. This helicopter view allows to shift priorities if need be.
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Ask your Coachee to draw his/her wheel of life grading for each area, the happiness level today and the targeted level. Analyse which areas have the biggest gaps between the 2 levels (today vs targeted) and reasons why.
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The Scaling Technique
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Setting high standards will often lead to great achievements, but if those standards become unrealistic, them dissatisfaction is the likely result. Ask the client what "perfect" means to him/her. Perfectionism may be based on a lot of false assumptions. You can help draw attention to and analyse these assumptions. Ask the client what they want to achieve using a Scaling Technique, ensure their goals are realistic and clarify the standards.
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Ask your Coachee to answer:
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What is good enough?
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What is the level of imperfection am I willing to tolerate?
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Will this matter in one year?
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What is the worst that can happen?
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What are the downsides of my perfectionism?
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Why am I a perfectionist? Where does it come from?
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Common Symptoms
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Feeling of always failing at everything he/she tries, which can lead to low self-esteem
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Feeling like a fraud / not feeling good enough
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Seeing "almost perfect" as a failure
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Focusing on imperfections
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Taking constructive criticism defensively
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Struggling to relax and share thoughts and feelings
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Becoming very controlling in personal and professional relationships
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Becoming obsessed with rules, list and work, or alternately, can become apathetic
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Can be prone to procrastination
3 Techniques
to Help Overcome Perfectionism
Sources:
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The Impostor Syndrome: Becoming an Authentic Leader, by Harold Hillman, Chris Abernathy, et al
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The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with the Grief, Stress and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook), by Rebecca E. Williams PhD and Julie S. Kraft MA
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Coach's Casebook, by Kim Morgan
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Compassion for All Creatures, by Janice Gray Kolb
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Perfectionism: A Practical Guide to Managing "Never Good Enough", by Lisa Van Gemert
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The Fulfillment of All Desire, by Ralph Martin
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Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment, by Tal Ben-Shahar
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The Disease To Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome, by Harriet B. Braiker